Recognizing the past of the squad, now forget it. Why can't a man forget sexually past his girlfriends (friends)? What a job, how a person knows about the big ones
Good day Maria Valerievna. I have the same food - rather a problem. Menu 27 recent years, having been born in the fall of the leaves (maybe it’s not important), the first sexual experience was taken off at 19 years (there were no problems far away), after a rich variety of family (short and trivaly) calls on this day, my team has 15 women. They got to know each other, began to chat, parted, a child was born, settled down, live with її mothers. To torment me is such a problem (sooner on the right in me): I became jealous of the squad until the її past (I’m not the 1st in it), if I got to know my thoughts and didn’t get into my head (they didn’t plan anything serious with her, they walked, they rested) Now thoughts about those who didn’t want to let me live in peace, the rest 2 months just going out of the garden and drinking beer or a burner one yak "drunk" (May sanctuary "Accountant-Auditor", I work at the machine-budget business as the head of the office, the salary for the current day is good) and, regardless of the same life, it is folded, that I myself am opposed. Previously, it was less like a boulder, back to the squad, chatting with the girls and just blaming them seriously, then thoughts of this kind were suddenly heard, and then the girls remarked that they were less turbulent, they simply told themselves about their last year . then my meals went by themselves. To be honest, I don’t know women’s minds with their stances before the first sex .. I’ll see that they have 16 years to lie down in the first half of my life (I know that there’s nothing serious, I won’t) I don’t know, and I’ll just think drive in. At the same time, when I came to the squad, I just had a swindle in my head. For the rest of the hour, she fell ill with a sore throat and, in an intimate plan, she didn’t reach, but she had a crimson angina, as if she were ill, like a doctor, a gynecologist explained it, but for me, that 70% of women have an ailment, like a moment of living immunity, tsya ailment zavazha normal state life. I sometimes have a chance to engage in anal sex, but the squad guides me, asking for help, after consulting with a doctor, they began to say to me that if it’s gentle, it’s possible and the reason for blaming this illness is, obviously, gently. It’s even more painful to hear me, to the point of vagity, I also tried to engage in anal sex with her, but she didn’t let me bring it to the end. I once again urged to take up anal sex, but I thought that I’m sure, I’m thinking that if we can live with it, and then we’ll be fine, but it didn’t happen, the reason was revealed, wanting to me in it їy first it was worthy, but then not better. Well, apparently I don’t particularly need it, but I want to try it with my squad. She does not want to talk about her past, explaining that there was nothing special in her life. And I think like a prikhovuvannya chogos in the form of a person (kokhan?). It’s rare to love me, but I won’t tell you that I love you, you won’t be wise enough to tell me. Borrowing kohannyam from me and sometimes feel like walking up to her and up to yourself, thoughts crawl into my head that I’m not kohayu with her, but someone else. I try not to think about it and just get up and drink on the street, drink beer and a burner alone, and then turn around and just lie down to sleep without caresses and kisses, that one won’t be especially annoying. There are thoughts that I don’t think about me in it, there are none, etc. etc. Speak to those with her, it’s important to sound out just to mutter and from her to be brought to "vidavlyuvati" vіdpovіd. I don’t know what I did to work, honestly I don’t want to live, I feel trampled, I’m disgusted with myself, but I want to be stunned. We talked for days on this topic (having judged by the prosecutor to finish the word not vib'sh) there it seems that everyone is allowed to pardon and I need to reconcile, but on my bazhanya I don’t give a shit, I want to love, I don’t know drink - I її love, live so much more painfully, that through її pardons we can’t live a normal life (for me it’s more important, it’s more sensitive), drink me nabridlo like it’s hotter. I don’t know what to do, I’m trying not to think about it, forget it, but it’s become like an ailment. The axis is the story of my foundation. Alas, they gave them worse, but you don’t want me to help you overcome it, even though I myself don’t know how. I asked for help, but I still don’t know the same reaction. I swear for style, Alemova didn’t get ready to write everything that was. If you can, if you please, then I’ll check with impatience, I just got tired. Vdyachny ahead of you.
Volodymyr.
Volodymyr, 74.ru, 27 years
Psychologist's advice:
Hello Volodymyr.
So. I'm afraid of my leaf will be long (endure). I would like to once again look at your uneasy emotional state. It can be seen that there are a lot of your needs to be frustrated and you need to spend money. Perche. Alcohol. Naskіlki I zrozumіla drink gorіlka chi beer on its own out of grief You don't have to do it - the best way to sleep, even though it's not obov'yazkovo. Think about what you can do to replace the burner from grief on your own (pove, cry, masturbate, drink to the gym to beat a pear, which is good and not bad for health). Other. Hurry up food. How old are you before you have discovered, like a problem, maybe those that your squad is 15 and that is your first sexual record? Third. More important. By the time I read your sheet, I wanted to admit the sexual life of your parity and that’s how it is. So bi move flies okremo, okremo soup. Show yourself a couple, like a miracle of a dream (one of one will understand, love, calmly move, house, know the compromise too soon). Such a couple may have sexual problems, tied with canopies, ailments, stresses, which is always good. Ale stink with more ymovirnistyu vporayutsya іz tsimi folds. Now to reveal a couple, in such a situation it’s not kind (a lot of incomprehensibility, lack of understanding, conflicts, distrust too thinly). For such a couple, the sexual sphere will be another testing ground for solving problems of the non-sexual spectrum. You can fight for power at a lie and avenge yourself for a fault (having formed a lesson, I won’t give you today, for example) it’s better now. So if you come to sexual therapy before me, with couples of the first type (for those garni vodnosiny), everything goes even more smoothly and finish it quickly, stink to slacken all the tasks and the problems are vibrating. And the axis with another couple is often sexual therapy reformulated into a friend, because sexually may be sabotaged, or not to the desired result, or a negative result. І to be brought to a head of virishuvati problems in women, and then already (and in parallel) sexually. Ale does not mean that problems cannot be solved. Possibly. I don’t know what would be better for you from what I wrote, why I gave you joy.
With respect, Moscow Maria Valerievna.
Nutrition for a psychologist:
Good day! Right like that. For a long time, we spent time with the girl, we lived with a civilized girl for over 5 years, and the serious mood and the power of the power of fun, the result was good. I reassured that we were the first in one of the first ones, I was hurt once, for which my conscience rinsed for about three months to hysterics, I recognized the result, and we survived. However, closer to the end, I’m already wiser, that we have become more like relatives and relatives, less like a man and a squad. There are no children. Buli try rozrivu from my side, she exalted me pity. It is unbearable for me to suffer, like someone else is suffering. Not long before the wedding, my squad showed up. Young, talanovita, otherwise beautiful (another type). I have a little to do with her. On the back of my head, I was seriously hurt (God, how infantile it sounds), and I took її zamіzh less than through the river after our acquaintance. I am a believing person, I was 100% convinced in it, I repented. It was important to me on the back of my head (having opened the front windows as painful, moving to a different place, difficult for pennies (having worked alone), I did everything well, didn’t tax a penny, I was respectful, I didn’t saw. go much more, lower my front woman, but I don’t want to have a squad now (whatever was desirable with the woman in front), but I simply can’t take it mystically, I can’t talk low about the woman.
Starting from the beginning, I’ll go over to the essence of the problem. She, of course, had people before me. It’s not rich enough, and I’m aware that life is like that, and I need to accept people. Bulo is not easy, my psyche was not ready to what, but I hit it. Sam rose, that he himself is not a yangol. Far away, after the fate, the blues changed into the right hell. I try to help or її to be happy (I give gifts without a drive, a power surprise, I try to be respectful and beat the hell out, for the human part of the house I manage well, I regularly help on the women’s rights, practice, I allow you not to work, it’s not like a robot I am jumping like a goat.) And I’m not a fool, a manipulator (including I’m smart when I’m impersonal), I’m amazed at her, I analyze everything - I’m not ready to be generous, I’m not supposed to love, but I don’t feel warm at my address. I know that I do not deceive and do not walk. However, for the rest of 2 months, I stopped wanting (or wanting sex for її words). Behind me, I am pursuing the same steps - sports, miyus skin day, I shave all sorts of smells there, but not to enthusiasm (feminine likeness). Be-like pestering and romance do not give any sense. Ale tse pіvbidi. The problem is that the motor is not emotional, I have depression even to the point of attacks (not if it happened before), today I think about those who would coolly commit self-destruction . religious conversions). I can't do this anymore. I feel selfish and not needed (we won’t demand more). I don’t walk through moral principles, I want options sooooo rich, because є i danі that pennies (like I earn myself). With everything, through humility, I began to get paranoid about fooling me. At the result, after looking over її listing with one friend (s too many lads she saw everything naturally), and even though we were afraid, that she herself was the initiator of the splurge with her own knowledge of the new girl. 2. I’m walking with him for the rubbish zalitsyannya and її pri navit pleased. 3. Ce bulo before me. 4. Deshcho I changed and cleaned up the details. 5. She didn’t have a hundred years, as if she would have reached the goal of pivroku.
So, I read all these wonderful articles about those that once you love a person - you need to accept it. To the right is not in me, I will endure. I'm afraid of children if you won’t change me, I’ll be more likely to drive into the direct meaning of the word for everything (God forbid). Well, you yourself will understand, as a matter of history, in a light form, you can signify on a child's psyche.
I can't help myself. I am morally strong, feisty, virtuous in the past people, today I drink 1-0.5 bottles of Corvalol, etc., unbearably. What has become of me? I'm trying to help, robiti. But I need a little natomist, but I ask for simple speeches: love, fidelity, turbot and tenderness, cleanliness in the house, preparation. All. Axis true. At the same time, I’m imagining, I can’t say anything before the path, I’m trying to work the first rock and the inescapable zvorotny zvezku. And I fight myself. I’m wondering poohmur, but in me I can feel the viability for her, I can’t sit with my hands clasped.
Zagalom we went to the final closer. The first problem is the most important, the friend is the most important, the third is the most significant.
1. I definitely respect її poviєyu i won’t be a guide.
2. I'm unbearable in these cases in the current period.
3. You don’t want me, for a young person without sex, that reasoning about wine requests is bad.
P.S. All my life, I tried to grow in my own human qualities, trying to look at myself in the first line - why don’t I have mercy? Trying to absorb conflicts and listen to them. As a result, I don't know who I am? Can you tell me? If I missed the moment and became a ganchirka, then say it straight (like about everything else) without trying to help anything, so shorter. It’s better for me to know the truth, then I’ll be with whom to practice.
P.P.S. I can’t separate - I’m sorry (my taboo), take a break not to go out (having tried to stay with my relatives for a while) I’m worried about her, but I’m pulling me to myself.
P.P.P.S I'm older.
Help me, there is no one to talk to me. I’m way out of my way, so talk about it badly to someone. And such close friends from kim about what you can always talk about in me. Whiskers rose, those kim hoch like a moment. But I can't do that. I sound to solve my problems myself. Forces on the border. Maybe my situation of the seen egg is not a varta, but if I know better, I need help.
Psychologist Zhemchuzhnikova Valentina Mikhaylivna is asked to be fed.
Good day Maxim!
It seems that you have a lot of pain, pain, decay. It looks like you got lost at once and don’t get out.
I already have a lot of food, it’s necessary to take it apart, so it became clear what is happening to you.
You write that you don’t feel the warmth of the squad, the food is immediately winickly “and how is she guilty of showing her feelings, so that you felt the cohanim for yourself?” and “what changed in the last hour, why did you stop chasing after the squad?”
I chimed in, which I think you are really worried about, that the squad is not the first person, that it felt like sex before you. There is a strong fear for її zrada. If I want to, I’m so wise, I don’t have any rethinking. I Tse your fear. Food, wine stars, why are you so worried.
You read the listing of the squad with a friend and obviously, not knowing anything about these girls, it seemed like they were with these people, and as the squad was going through their own development, you clearly and categorically gave an even more negative rating. Some people didn’t respect the nobility that the people were crumbling at the moment, that they were experiencing it and how they lived, so that one could judge like that, that it’s a bad thing. Tim more, especially for all three points, I don’t have anything stingy. And the rest of the paragraph is not clear. Causes of non-trival vodnosin can be alright and sometimes a person is not radium itself, and if you want trial vodnosins, but not to go out.
Write, “I don’t want it, for a young man without sex, that understanding, that it’s bad for making demands.” I don’t know why you don’t care for yourself - that the squad doesn’t want you, or you physically need sex. Why is it really bad for you in view of the reality of sex, or in view of the very fact that you don’t want to? The whole speech.
I myself, in my opinion, the main point. You write that the squad doesn’t want you, and it’s safe for you. ALE. At your list, I already see much, that you don’t accept the squad, you sue, it’s filthy for you. Well, you yourself confirm (what do you think your team will say, what do you want to be like a woman). І you broadcast tse vilno chi in passing and in your behavior. І squad tse vіdchuvaє.
I would recommend you a job as a psychologist. And it is unlikely that there will be 1-2 zustrіchі. It’s more of a therapy, you can think about yourself, your women with women (as you will, how you broadcast your behavior, how you choose women thinly), with your squad, with your fears and attitudes, in which you have got lost at times.
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It’s easy to understand a person, as if a mature person is not small for a shoulder to know, both positive and negative. It is important for deyakі cholovіki to accept the fact that їhnya blessed lived or spoke with others. Through the guilt of innocence, almost doubtful and jealous of the past squad.
Cholovik, like a wiser participant in the world, may take a partner in the past. In real life, everything goes wrong: people start to panic, get nervous, make claims, and by the same token themselves, drive in a little, not only their own kohaniy, but also themselves.
Practically, the skin representation of a weak state stuck with the situation, if the gentleman demonstrates superiority, he dares to milim, dbailivim, and then I transform sleeping life it was hot at the right.
You can show up like this:
- Criticism of girlfriends. Often people respect close friends of their companions who are insufficiently orderly, like flirting with the mustache and protecting their sleep.
- Permanent control. Tse appear in hysterics, as if the phone is on the phone, or I don’t take a hearing aid, maybe I’ll call for a skin crotch.
- Scandals through the respect of other people. The woman, outraged, dresses more modestly, listens to claims about those who marveled at her, depriving her of a compliment social measures chi having tried to know.
Causes of jealousy until the last squad
The root of the problem is like in the psychological complexes of a person, and in the suspected behavior of the squad:
- Old psychological trauma. A man, who wants to be once in life with a dream at the entrance of a kohan woman to a great partner, can worry that the situation will become anew and become familiar with this important flour.
- Low self-esteem. It manifests itself in a person's innocence in oneself, in one's ability, capacity. We care for ourselves that we are not good enough and we care that the squad, having equalized yoga with a lot of companion, can break the flow of blue.
- Mental disorder. In this case, the factor of zayvoї pіdozrіlnostі є deakі vіdhilennya psihіtsi cholovіka. The druzhina can not let the drive get confused in її fidelity, but in people there are intrusive thoughts that the druzhina obov'yazkovo zradzhuє її z kolishnіm.
- Fear through a possible emotional connection with a large partner. People will make plans at their skin vents, spend a lot of time at once, they will make speeches, friends, missions. And often the stench, like an anchor, irritates a woman to turn around to think about the past blues, about those, like they had a good time. In this mood, the emotional connection has not yet been broken. The movability of such a situation makes a person worry about the future of a hundred years.
- Postiyni riddles about the amount. Deyakі zhіnki mayut zvichka yak bi vipadkovo zagaduvati past companion, rozpovidaty details of the sleeping hour - where they went, what they robbed, and also guess the special characteristics of the colossus. A person can interpret, as if I don’t suffocate love, sympathy.
- Support for past contacts. Before them, one can see listing by phone, regular telephone calls, and communication on the Internet. That, without a doubt, to cause jealousy, shards can mean that the blue is not yet finished.
How to get rid of people's distrust
Here, there are ways to win over the ways of how to overcome the jealousy of hundreds of partners, as well as objects from the past, gifts, and also the past way of life.
Number of partners
- Varto show prudence and do not rule scandal. Do not need to zmushuvati forget a colossal companion. The hour of rejoicing and the number of podії more likely to guess.
- Don't talk about the past hundred days And about those who were in them, to that you can open the old wound, that naughty girl. As soon as the squad itself initiates rozpovidat, then calmly say that there is no topic that should be translated to Rozmov.
Items, gifts from the past
- Don't Mess with the Kohana Wikidata Gifted Items. A gift can be corny for her, and it’s not appropriate for a person, it’s not necessary, it’s necessary to say something, or to ask someone. It is necessary to respect the special space of the partner.
- Talk to Kohanoi. Calmly, without hysterics, explain that the team took away the gifts of the host of unacceptable emotions and ask them not to wear them.
Way of life until death
- Work on yourself. Vіdmіnnym way to overcome the unacceptable almost jealousy є vryadkuvannya vlasnyh thoughts and feelings. It is necessary to understand that as a woman worked in the past, it will not be necessary for a new life.
- Give new ideas. You don’t need to go there and do it like that, as the squad fought with its big partner. Navpaki, following the date of їy new emotions and anger, revealing a different world. Tse allow її forget the past and take away the new reality.
In order to overcome your jealousy until the last squad, it is necessary to show chimalo zusil, and bring peace to the vikonan robot, to restore peace and harmony, to ease a person’s suffering:
- Understand that in the past you will be left with a person forever. You can't forget about the colossal life. People of that situation remain in memory for all life. The best option, to protect your nerves and health, is to accept everything that happened to the kohanoi and let the situation go. It’s not necessary to worry about it, if everything was good with the past, then the stosunki would not end.
- Live radical approaches. If you don’t go out in a diplomatic way to a woman to collude with a lot, then varto show a person’s strength and in a larger form explain to the squad that it’s unacceptable, if a man’s kohan is going over with thoughts in the past hundred years and continuing with a lot. It is effective to give an ultimatum to certain vipadkas. Vin will definitely give an understanding of who is the most important for a girl. If a kohana is encouraged to flirt with colossal people, then it’s good to make up your mind, and what kind of hat is needed.
- take care of yourself. A woman instinctively gravitates towards a successful person. Instead, spend an hour on the clock or get a good phone call, rather put yourself into work, start earning more pennies, sign up for gym, dress more beautifully, become a cіkavim svіvrozmovnik, get a new light. Tse allow you to feel more inwardly, cheer up your jealousy and worry less about the drive of what is so much there.
- It is necessary for mother to feel goodness and do not stoop to look at the phone at night and scandals. The man is not a farbuy. Jealousy - tse pochutya, like I can’t have anything sleepy with love.
- On the back, don’t get used to yakihos diy and marvel at what you see. As soon as the squad continues to provoke on jealousy, high navit unseen, then varto convey your dissatisfaction to her. It is not necessary to follow її filthy behavior and in the place to rule an affair on the side. The price is low for a person.
- Yakshcho Rozmov "to the soul" does not bring results, then varto think about a little further dotsіlnіst stosunkіv. For any kind of moodiness, children need less than that, if there is a real need to hesitate. In other ways, jealousy does not give life, to bring to a loss of spiritual jealousy and peace, and then to a decrease in health, as a life that ruins a beautiful sense of love.
Video: Jealous of the past partner
Good afternoon. I am the twin of friends. Having broken the first school without children simply to that which I understand - I don’t like it, just pishov and becoming to live alone. Then maybe five years later, I made friends practically with my maiden dream from the great and bright kokhan, tobto. at that moment I was given that all the floorings were more ideal in our feelings, that it was terribly navrochit. At the same time, we have two children, family, like before, already happy, because I don’t care about my problems in one moment. The druzhina, during the period of zalitsyan (before the first one, to inspire our friend), unreasonably energized me (now she herself doesn’t know now), that I have sex on the first day of acquaintance with a person. I vіdpovіv, scho nі, i tse truth. I’m not an angel, I had close to 10 partners before the squad, but I’ll start showing the least sympathy for the people earlier, I’ll know the next hour, the minimum day, after that, have sex. Once in a while in life at some evenings, I realized that I can take vipadkovy sex, since I often used the soul of the company and to endure a handsome one, but my head showed - not varto, although my head could allow such sexual fantasies of its own accord. Zagalom, I didn’t have sex on the first day of acquaintance and about the future squad, I asked for help. Well, she saw that it was like that in her once, she went to the sea, she has her own company, she entrusted walking around, they spoke at the court table, they got to know each other very well, she went not far, wine behind her, walked there like a garden, proponing to go to the new , complements, kisses, well, ... the kisses ended in sex. Todi, she just added to the slubu, that she was todі іnshoy, mabut іrshoy, lower now, if she could let it go, that it wouldn’t happen like that at once, and that’s it, they didn’t talk about that topic anymore. Before the speech now, it seems that this vipadka person was more than different in her sexual life. I could have been 4 in total, including me, I won’t specify, I just know that in front of me was a fast lad, who showed up to the sea after that. Tobto. until that moment, human respect was not so rich in life. Well, from, rozpovіla wine less, but at that moment I only pushed wedges to her and I didn’t have any rights, I safely skipped that fact. It’s not enough there, well, you’ll think about sex, well, it’s vipadkovy ... It’s not a group thing, it’s more, now it’s like it’s an offensive wound, it’s been fluidly about you, and it’s been roaring all day. Zagalo without guessing at the principle of 4 fates, and the axis of a few months later, I fortuitously know її photos of a young man in front of me, photos of an erotic character, but to finish the word decently. Vaughn immediately vanished, saying that she herself did not know how the stench was saved, saying that we did not need it. Well... having broken my soul, but not likes, there was nothing like that. Having gone through it calmly, ale... chomus guessing that very vipadkovy її sex on the sea. And everything ... started, wound up in the soul ... Thinking suddenly that I am jealous of my past partners, but no, they do not praise the stench of me all at once. Go out in a rush, what I'm worried about, what my squad could have allowed such a thing, well, saying, how did the people, I knew that the year before, well, little girl, well, what? On this year's Crimean episode її the image for me is more reasonable, beautiful, lordly, strong, turbotlivy and so on. Tobto. live and be glad, ale from clay ... Yak vin could do it. Wanted a vipadkovy man? Isn't it normal for a decent girl? I couldn’t help (she got into a fight through lack of information) - well, how is it, where is the woman’s goodness? And yakby, having piled up a sickness, like, I want to seem that the contraceptive was present ... Well, in a flash ... I don’t want to pretend that a bright image in my head is like that, like, in my opinion, I couldn’t become a decent girl. But as a result, come out, what is not so wine and light? can the person change? Maybe, I'm afraid it might happen again? But then she was free and didn’t hurt anyone. Those who are not so good - won and are 100% fit for themselves, moving and very fluid. Well, yakby won so hated tsyu podium, now tell me about tse? At the same time, she herself doesn’t know now, maybe she wanted to repent, maybe even more ... Today, she herself worries about me, that I’m getting ready, I’m ready to help, but we don’t know. Kohannya and caresses are quite enough, I can not think about it and live peacefully, but periodically go on a trip and think about it early in the evening. I don’t say anything else, but the evil Hodge. then I break through, I confess that I’ve been driven anew, I’m worried at once ...